The best 90 Resolving Conflict books

We’ve all been in situations where rational discussions get quickly out of hand, and Crucial Conversations investigates the root causes of this problem. You’ll learn techniques to handle such situations and shape them into becoming positive and solutions-oriented, while preventing your high-stakes conversations from turning into shouting matches.

• Anyone whose job requires dealing with other people often
• Anyone who wants to improve conversations in their personal relationships
• Anyone who offers professional communications training

Getting More (2010) lays out precisely how to negotiate your way toward a fuller, more satisfying life. The strategies and tools described in this book can be used in any situation, from finding a happier outcome when sparring with a partner to convincing your boss that you’re long overdue for a raise.

• People looking to improve their negotiating skills
• Sales managers, sales reps or anyone involved in cutting business deals
• Anyone who feels they never get what they want when negotiating

The 11 Laws of Likability (2011) is a guide to networking built on one simple fact: people do business with people they like. These blinks will explain how to discover your most likable characteristics, start conversations and keep them going, and make a lasting positive impression on people.

• Anyone who wants to build a lasting professional relationship
• Anyone starting a new job
• Recent graduates looking for a job

Getting The Love You Want (1988) offers practical advice on how to save a failing relationship and build a stronger one. It highlights a unique therapy program that offers a step-by-step guide to helping partners address repressed childhood desires and become more compassionate individuals.

• Couples looking to reboot a relationship
• People curious about Freudian psychoanalysis

Radical Collaboration (2004) offers invaluable methods to help you build effective and high-functioning collaborative relationships, as well as strategies to manage any kind of conflict that you might run into. At the heart of these methods are five skills that can turn anyone into a better teammate and turn any organization into an efficient and productive partnership.

• Business leaders
• Managers and teammates
• Readers interested in becoming better collaborators

Negotiating the Nonnegotiable (2016) offers insights into a new framework that can be applied to solve stubborn conflicts in both our personal and professional lives. The blinks emphasize the importance of the “tribal mind,” while also illustrating how we actively address emotional pain and examining the role of identity in conflict resolution.

• Married readers who regularly fight with their partners
• Unsatisfied employees who feel at odds with their colleagues or boss
• Negotiators who need new ideas for resolving conflicts

Verbal Judo (1993) is your guide to effective communication, from a police officer’s perspective. These blinks explain why some common communication techniques could be holding you back and why others may be better suited to achieving your communication goals.

• Police officers, security guards and anyone who deals with disruptive people
• Professional communicators and mediators
• Couples struggling to communicate their feelings

Why Does He Do That? (2003) reveals the psychology behind abusive men. Drawing on his experience as a counselor to male abusers, author Lundy Bancroft explains the nature of abusive thinking, the early warning signs of abuse, and the steps women can take to free themselves from an abusive relationship.

• Anyone who feels trapped in an abusive relationship
• Mothers considering leaving their abusive partner
• People who suspect a friend or family member is being abused

The Advice Trap (2020) is a practical guide to taming your inner Advice Monster. Many of us give advice compulsively because we’re insecure and want to control the situations we’re in. But that comes at the cost of alienating ourselves from other people, and stifling innovation in the workplace. Instead of jumping in with solutions, we need to cultivate a deep sense of curiosity and really learn to listen to other people.

• Mansplainers hoping to learn how to stop giving unsolicited lectures
• Innovative leaders who want to learn new methods to inspire their teams
• People interested in how coaching techniques can be used in daily life

Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen (2020) tackles the thorny subject of communicating with tweens – those adolescents between the ages of ten and fourteen who are beginning to pull away from their parents and close down lines of communication. This is the age at which “big” topics like sexuality, money, and life choices are more important than ever. But it’s also the age at which having a conversation with your child is harder than ever before. So what can parents do? Well, it’s time to learn a new way of talking with, and not at, your tween. 

• Relationship-builders struggling to talk with their tweens
• Worriers who want the best for their kids
• Parents of younger children preparing for the next step

Connect (2021) lays the groundwork for exceptional relationships. Drawing on social science research and the authors’ personal experience, it shares core behaviors and actionable advice to cultivate meaningful connections – leading to personal fulfillment and professional success.

• People who want to communicate better with friends, family, or romantic partners
• Professionals looking to improve their soft skills to level up in their careers
• Those seeking advice on how to become their best selves

Fault Lines (2020) examines a common problem that no one talks about: family estrangements. Over a quarter of Americans experience being cut off from friends and family during their lifetimes, which has devastating psychological impacts. Fault Lines explores the common causes of estrangement and gives surprising and insightful advice on how to work towards reconciliation.

• Anyone who’s experienced the pain of family estrangement
• Budding sociologists who are fascinated by human relationships
• Parents wanting to learn how to navigate conflict with their kids

Get It (2020) is a one-stop guide to taking control of your voice so that you can successfully navigate the thorniest conversations in life. It’ll teach you how to clean up your conversational hygiene by avoiding common faux pas and show you how to present your best self to others. Once you know how to direct conversations toward outcomes you want, you’ll be sure to achieve success in love, work, and beyond.

• Introverts who have trouble expressing themselves in conversation
• Crestfallen lovers who want to reconnect with their partners
• Anyone who wants to improve their chances of success in life

The High-Conflict Couple (2007) is a guide to overcoming the common relationship pitfalls that lead to conflict and animosity. Drawing upon years of psychology research and therapy experience, Alan E. Fruzzetti explains where conflict comes from and how it can be reduced.

• Couples tired of fighting with each other
• People who struggle to accept the things they cannot change
• Anyone wanting to be more present in their own life

Atlas of the Heart (2021) is a guide to understanding your emotions and learning how to regulate them. Everyone experiences strong emotions, but most people can’t identify what it is they’re feeling, or work out where the feelings come from. Developing your emotional vocabulary will transform your relationship to yourself, and the people around you.

• Curious adventurers interested in exploring their own emotional landscapes
• Anyone who feels flooded by painful emotions that they can’t understand or control
• Fans of Brené Brown’s work wanting to learn more about her latest insightful theories of emotion

Wired for Love (2012) is a guide to maintaining closeness and emotional security within romantic partnerships. It uses research from neurobiology and psychology to show why long-term couples come into conflict, and it offers practical tips on how to use knowledge about brain functions to promote peace and mutual security in your relationship.

• Partners in committed relationships
• Couples seeking to manage conflict 
• Those interested in social psychology

Us (2022) is for anyone whose once-loving relationship has devolved into point-scoring and power struggles. It offers a science-based skill set, illustrated with rich and detailed examples, to help you and your partner heal your toxic individualism and your relationship. 

• Couples who find themselves having the same fight over and over again
• Partners whose disagreements turn melodramatic within minutes
• Anyone dealing with a breach of trust in a close relationship

Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People (2013) provides practical tactics for navigating tough conversations at work. Along with over 325 phrases, it includes dozens of sample conversations that show the phrases in action.

• Anyone dealing with difficult coworkers or bosses
• Employees looking for practical guidance on how to talk to colleagues
• People interested in conflict management

Getting to Zero (2021) is a guide to dealing with conflict in intimate, high-stakes relationships – those with your family, good friends, and partners. It describes a process for “getting to zero” by achieving resolution and closure after conflict.

• Conflict avoiders
• Those who project childhood experiences onto others
• All who want to resolve conflict in their interpersonal relationships

Partnering (2022) looks at what it takes to develop deep connections in both business and personal relationships. Drawing from interviews with some of the world’s most legendary partnerships, including Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter, Nelson Mandela and Graça Machel, and the collective which saved the ozone, these blinks are a guide through the six principles of connection which can elevate your relationships and make an impact on the world.

• Entrepreneurs
• People who are married or in a romantic partnership
• Anyone seeking to deepen their relationships

Humor, Seriously (2021) explores the value of a human-centered approach to business, and of the funny that can be found and created in any environment. It relies on science, psychology, and humorous anecdotes from experts in the field to show how using humor can create a culture of levity, build trust, and unlock creativity.

• Leaders looking to build trust
• Managers who want to enhance creativity
• Anyone seeking more joy in work and life

The Leader Lab (2021) is a handbook for anyone who wants to improve their management skills fast. Through extensive research, and training more than 200,000 managers, the authors have identified the core behaviors and skills that all great managers share. They offer simple, practical tips, and methods that can be applied for rapid results.

• New managers lacking in confidence
• Leaders keen to improve their skills
• Anyone who wants to communicate more effectively in the workplace

Making Great Relationships (2023) is a practical guide to building nourishing, healthy, communicative relationships. It shares simple strategies designed to troubleshoot conflict and break unhealthy cycles, as well as best practices for deepening and strengthening positive relationships.

• Couples who feel stuck in an unproductive relationship dynamic
• Friends who feel their needs aren’t met by their social circle
• Colleagues whose interactions are marked by conflict and poor communication

Positively Energizing Leadership (2022) offers organization leaders and workers a practical guide to understanding and harnessing the power of positively energizing characteristics and interpersonal approaches. With empirical data and how-to advice, it aims to boost innovation, profits, and compassion in the workplace and at home. 

• Anyone working as part of a team 
• Managers who want to increase interpersonal richness in their organization 
• Leaders looking for strategies to deal with a “black hole” of a worker 

Find Your People (2022) is a Christian woman’s guide to finding, making, and keeping friends. It proposes that God wired us to be in relationships with others – that’s why we crave deep, fulfilling connections. But finding them is harder than ever in today’s hyper-connected yet hyper-lonely world. With a strong sense of commitment and the help of God, you can find your people and keep them too.

• Christians struggling with feelings of loneliness
• Women yearning for deep, lasting sisterhood
• New parents worried about maintaining their social lives

Conversations Worth Having (2018) looks at the power of conversation in our lives and what we can do to communicate more productively at work, in our relationships, and in the community. Drawing on real-life stories and scientifically based theories, it illustrates how we can improve organizations and lives using the principle of Appreciative Inquiry – effective conversation through positive perspective and asking the right questions.

• Leaders who want to engage with their teams for the best results
• Parents and teachers who want to see their children flourish
• Anyone looking to improve the tone and direction of their conversations

Win Every Argument (2023) is a guide to the art of argument by one of the world’s most combative debaters: journalist, anchor, and writer Mehdi Hasan. Drawing on ancient theories of persuasion, neuroscientific theories of cognition, and the rhetorical tricks of contemporary politicians, Hasan reveals the secrets to winning arguments in today’s post-factual world.

• Natural-born arguers and debaters
• Anyone interested in the art of persuasion
• Public speakers and politicos

Surrounded By Narcissists (2022) is a guide to recognizing narcissists and understanding how they operate. Erikson suggests simple, effective methods for dealing with any narcissists you know, whether it’s your partner, a relative, someone you work with, or possibly all three – you may be surrounded.

• Victims of narcissists
• Empaths who are worried about being manipulated
• Anyone who’s interested in psychology or personality types

Facilitating Breakthrough (2021) dives into how people can go about solving their most intractable problems. By using an approach honed over decades, you can learn how to remove obstacles from conflicts and make progress toward resolution.

• Facilitators, managers, and mediators 
• Anyone looking for new ways to resolve intractable situations
• People interested in the art of problem-solving

I Don’t Agree (2020) is a practical guide to improving your conflict resolution skills. Disagreement is seen as bad, and even scary. But, actually, conflict can be a powerful engine for growth if you know how to deal with it effectively. I Don’t Agree provides ten practical strategies that will help you become an expert in dealing with conflict in all areas of your life.

• Employees seeking to improve their collaborations
• Anyone wanting to resolve a bitter argument
• Parents who want to learn how to teach conflict resolution skills to their kids

Jerks at Work (2022) provides a handbook for how to deal with difficult people at work. Identifying seven types of jerks, it informs you about what kind of behaviors to look out for and how to deal with them in a pragmatic, positive way.

• Anyone who is struggling with a jerk at work
• Those who have a friend or loved one who won’t stop complaining about a jerk at work 
• People who are interested in how social psychology applies to the workplace

Forgive (2022) proposes personal and community healing through genuine, wholesome, and compassionate forgiveness. The arguments in this guide will help you understand why Christian forgiveness could be secular society’s best remedy for relieving the offended, reforming the offenders, and promoting fellowship among humans.

• Anyone trying to understand the importance of forgiveness
• Victims of abuse seeking to let go of anger and hate
• Christians trying to understand God’s forgiveness

Can We Talk? (2021) outlines the seven communication principles essential for successfully navigating difficult conversations in the workplace, be it asking for a promotion, delivering negative feedback, or resolving a professional conflict.

• People who struggle to assert themselves at work
• Employees who avoid having difficult conversations with their managers
• Managers who wish they could communicate better with their teams

Good Arguments (2022) is one part memoir, one part guide to the art of speaking. It introduces us to the thrilling and eccentric subculture of competitive debate and distills its secrets into timeless principles for effective communication. If we can only learn to disagree better, it argues, we can improve our relationships and revitalize our democracies.

• Couples who want to communicate more effectively
• Introverts who want to climb out of their shell
• Anyone who wants to speak more persuasively

The Overthinking In Relationships Fix (2020) is a guide to getting rid of toxic overthinking patterns that put your romantic relationships on the verge of a breakup. It offers advice and easy-to-do techniques to release your worrying thoughts and strengthen your bond with your partner.

• Anyone in a relationship
• Long-distance lovers
• Those looking to overcome toxic overthinking

Marriage Be Hard (2022) offers advice on how to effectively communicate important topics with your partner. Chronicling the ups and downs of the authors’ own marriage, it shows how to form loving, lasting relationships.

• Married couples
• People who want to repair their relationships
• Anyone looking for general relationship advice

Talk To Me Like I’m Someone You Love (1993) is a relationship repair tool that coaches couples on how to speak to each other more genuinely.

• Couples in therapy
• People who need relationship advice
• Those looking for better relationship communication

The Argument Hangover (2021) is your guide to constructively fighting with a romantic partner so that you both learn from the conflict and emerge from it even stronger. Through clear communication, you’ll be surprised to find how disagreements can suddenly become opportunities for growth.

• Couples who feel like conflict is hurting their relationship
• Individuals looking to learn how to be kinder to their partner
• Aspiring relationship coaches looking for tips

We Over Me (2023) is the story of the podcasting-and-influencing power couple Devale and Khadeen Ellis – in their own words. With trademark disarming honesty, the Ellises lay bare the struggles and successes that have shaped them as a couple, and share the strategies that allow them to thrive as a partnership. 

• Single people looking for love that lasts
• Couples who’ve lost sight of each other’s needs
• Anyone who could do with a dose of unfiltered relationship advice

Power vs. Force (2014) explains how anyone can tap into their inner power to change their lives and the lives of those around them. It demonstrates that with consciousness, intention and discernment, anyone can find their truth and follow it toward a more fulfilled and impactful life. 

• People interested in alternative theories about science and humanity
• Anyone who faces major doubts in their lives
• Humanity nerds

Love & Respect (2012) uses biblical scripture, the author’s experience as a marriage counselor, and insight from other relationship therapists to help couples connect. By following the principles it lays out, husbands and wives learn to show each other the kind of love and respect they both crave. In the process, conflicts get resolved and marriages become energized.

• Married couples who want to remain happily married
• Divorcees trying to heal
• Engaged couples

The Emotional Lives of Teenagers (2023) is a best-selling guide to navigating the highs and lows of parenting your child through adolescence. It dispenses honest, practical, research-informed advice aimed at helping parents understand, support, and connect with their teens in a way that honors the huge transition they’re experiencing.

• Parents looking for effective strategies to support their teen’s mental health
• Educators and youth workers seeking clinically informed advice about the adolescent years
• Anyone who wants to help the teenagers in their lives feel loved, supported, and heard as they transition into adulthood

Love More Fight Less provides straightforward directions on how to develop communication skills that will help you and your partner handle conflict. Various activities let you practice the skills, and this Blink details how to use these communication techniques in real-life situations.

• Couples that need help communicating
• Those interested in improving their social skills and personal growth
• Skilled communicators looking for new ways to connect in their relationships

The Explosive Child (2021) is a groundbreaking and scientific guide to dealing with children who react extremely to routine situations. Drawing on neuroscience and child psychology, Greene lays out a conceptual framework focused on the cause of the behavior, rather than the behavior itself. This framework can serve as a guide for frustrated parents who want to understand and address their child’s severe outbursts.

• Frustrated parents who feel like they've tried it all
• Caregivers and teachers who are concerned by a child's violent outbursts
• Anyone looking for a fresh and compassionate perspective on children's problematic behavior

Fierce Conversations (2002) is a practical guide to having authentic, powerful conversations that can change the trajectory of your life. It uses anecdotes, practical techniques, and assignments to illustrate how conversations are the cornerstone of relationships.

• Managers, people leaders, and employers
• People looking to improve their communication skills
• Anyone trying to repair a relationship

Own Your Armor (2022) offers an innovative approach to fixing dysfunctional workplace culture. It outlines the ten principles of the Own Your Armor method that teams can use to foster better communication, improve productivity, and create a healthier, more positive work environment.

• Leaders who want to improve their team’s dynamics
• Employees who want to create a better workplace culture
• Anyone who wants to learn healthier ways of solving conflicts

Death by Meeting (2004) is a part-fable, part-instruction guide to the pitfalls of dull and unproductive meetings. It highlights why meetings can be so damaging to team morale and proposes a fresh approach – relying on healthy conflict and a clear purpose – to keep leaders and participants engaged. 

• Team leaders wanting to enhance meeting effectiveness
• Executives striving to boost team engagement
• Consultants advising clients on best practices for organizational health

Emotional Intelligence Habits (2023) is a comprehensive guide to cultivating the emotional intelligence (EQ) skills essential to both personal and professional success. It covers 35 habits that underpin the highest EQ scores and offers practical exercises to get you on your way today. 

• Professionals seeking a competitive edge
• Anyone wanting to improve their interpersonal relationships
• Individuals interested in becoming better people and leaders

The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD (2014) delves into the challenges many couples face when one or both partners have undiagnosed adult ADHD. An essential guide for couples seeking to strengthen their bond and navigate the complexities of ADHD in their relationships, it emphasizes the importance of understanding ADHD symptoms and offers strategies to enhance communication, trust, and intimacy.

• Couples seeking insight into how ADHD affects their relationship dynamics
• Individuals diagnosed with adult ADHD aiming to improve their romantic partnerships
• Counselors who want to expand their understanding of ADHD in intimate relationships

Communication Miracles for Couples (1997) offers practical strategies to help partners improve their communication and deepen their emotional connection. It focuses on simple yet powerful techniques for expressing feelings, listening effectively, and resolving conflicts with empathy and understanding. By fostering appreciation and clarity in conversations, it helps couples build stronger, more harmonious relationships.

• Struggling couples seeking better communication skills
• Newlyweds eager to build a strong foundation
• Anyone interested in improving romantic relationships

Securely Attached (2023) is an insightful exploration into the world of attachment theory and its practical implications in everyday life. It delves into how different attachment strategies, formed during early childhood, influence the way individuals interact and bond with others throughout their lives. Offering a multitude of reflection exercises, questions, and tips, its goal is to help people recognize the attachment strategies they’re currently using and help them transition to earned secure attachment over time.

• People in romantic relationships seeking insight into their attachment strategies
• Parents looking for guidance on building secure attachments with their children
• Anyone who knows or suspects they’re using insecure attachment strategies

How to Be the Love You Seek (2023) is part candid memoir, part practical manual to improving your romantic relationships. Supported by personal experience and patient case studies, it argues that deep inner work is the essential prerequisite to secure, loving outer relationships – and outlines the process to make this transformation possible. 

• Anyone looking to improve their romantic relationship(s) 
• Individuals committed to moving past old wounds and trauma 
• People interested in self-development and personal growth 

The Courageous Follower (2009) is a guide on the role of followers in their relationships with leaders, which emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and the courage to stand for the greater good. It presents a model for followership that includes taking responsibility, challenging authority constructively, and participating actively in the success of the organization – transforming traditional perceptions of followership. 

• Individuals interested in leadership and organizational behavior dynamics
• Followers looking to increase their influence and constructive engagement
• Leaders seeking to foster a culture of mutual respect

Positive Communication for Leaders (2023) explores the transformative power of positive communication strategies in leadership roles. It offers practical guidance on employing positive language, active listening, and constructive feedback to enhance organizational effectiveness and interpersonal relationships. Through theoretical insights and real-world applications, it aims to equip leaders with the tools to foster a more supportive and productive workplace environment.

• Corporate leaders seeking to improve team dynamics
• HR professionals interested in organizational development strategies
• Managers aiming to enhance employee engagement

Attack from Within (2024) delves into the critical examination of how disinformation has been weaponized to challenge the fabric of democracy, distort public discourse, and erode fundamental trust in public institutions. This exploration serves as a call to action, urging you to recognize, confront, and disarm the insidious threats posed by disinformation, thereby fortifying the resilience of democratic values.

• Students or practitioners of law interested in national security and disinformation
• History and political science students
• Advocates for democracy and free speech

Possible (2024) introduces a groundbreaking strategy for confronting the increase in conflicts that threaten aspects of daily life, from personal relationships to global dynamics. It posits that by engaging with conflict constructively, you can unlock the potential for creative problem-solving and strengthen relationships. This approach will equip you with the tools to transform adversarial interactions into cooperative successes, paving the way for progress in every aspect of your life.

• Conflict resolution mediators and professionals
• Leaders and managers
• Individuals navigating personal or workplace conflicts

Fight Right (2024) offers invaluable findings from extensive research on conflict resolution in relationships. Here, you’ll find practical strategies to avoid common mistakes during conflict, which will enable you to foster deeper connection and lasting love. Compelling case studies and international research demonstrate that even struggling couples can heal and strengthen their relationship dynamics with the right tools and guidance.

• Couples who find themselves fighting repeatedly over the same trivial things
• Couples who never fight, and are wondering if that’s really such a good thing
• Couples coming out of the honeymoon phase and confronting relationship conflict for the first time

Conversational Intelligence (2014) explores how brain chemistry influences the way we communicate, explaining why some conversations build trust while others create barriers. By combining insights from neuroscience with practical strategies, it offers tools to turn daily interactions into powerful opportunities for connection, innovation, and meaningful change.

• Leaders and managers looking to build more collaborative, innovative teams
• Negotiators and mediators handling complex conversations
• Anyone experiencing communication challenges in personal or professional relationships

Liberated Love (2024) is a guide to ending unhealthy relationship dynamics such as codependence. By taking an intentional pause, people can create better romantic relationships and find fulfillment.

• Codependent couples
• People who want healthier romantic relationships
• Anyone who’s interested in self-development

Burnout Immunity (2024) uncovers the root causes of burnout and why it is so pervasive in professional environments. It reveals the key to protecting against burnout – emotional intelligence – and explores techniques that anyone can learn to develop a better relationship with stress.

• People interested in healing from or avoiding burnout
• Leaders looking to increase their positive impact
• Anyone seeking to further their understanding of emotional intelligence

High Road Leadership (2024) is a guide for leaders who want to make a positive, lasting impact through integrity and generosity. It has insights and advice for anyone interested in becoming a successful leader who makes a meaningful difference.

• Managers and executives looking for inspiration
• Anyone in a leadership position
• People looking to have an impact on others

Difficult Conversations Don’t Have to Be Difficult (2024) is a practical guide to navigating challenging discussions. With a focus on work relationships, it provides a step-by-step method to approach difficult conversations with confidence, empathy, and skill. In doing so, it helps transform potential conflicts into opportunities for growth and positive change.

• Anyone looking to improve their communication skills
• Business leaders wanting to strengthen their interpersonal skills and build strong teams
• HR professionals looking for additional strategies for handling conflict

How to Hug a Porcupine (2009) provides practical advice on how to navigate relationships with difficult and challenging people. It explores strategies for fostering empathy, improving communication, and developing patience to create more harmonious interactions. By understanding the behavior of “porcupines,” you can learn to build healthier and more effective relationships.

• Individuals seeking to improve difficult relationships
• Professionals in high-stress or challenging work environments
• Families navigating interpersonal conflicts and tensions

I Respectfully Disagree (2024) offers practical strategies for seeing beyond black-and-white thinking, embracing empathy, and fostering respectful dialogue. With engaging insights and real-life examples, it provides the tools you need to navigate conflicts with understanding and grace. 

• Anyone who’s suffered silently through a family reunion
• People who struggle with differing opinions
• Diplomatic individuals eager to build bridges

The Art of Conflict-Free Negotiations (2024) covers strategies for navigating workplace conflicts and deals while achieving mutually beneficial outcomes. By mastering these techniques, you’ll be able to conduct negotiations with integrity and foster successful relationships in all areas of life.

• Business professionals seeking to enhance their negotiation skills 
• Mediators and coaches looking for effective strategies to handle conflicts 
• Leaders and managers needing to navigate team dynamics 

‘Til Stress Do Us Part (2024) explores how external stress, rather than relationship dynamics, is often the root cause of couples’ struggles. It offers practical tools, including journaling prompts, self-regulation exercises, and communication strategies, to help couples manage stress and strengthen their connection. 

• Couples looking for strategies to manage stress and improve communication
• New parents navigating a period of heightened pressure in their relationship
• Therapists supporting clients through challenging periods

Habits of a Peacemaker (2024) provides practical habits to help individuals engage in productive, respectful conversations, even on divisive topics. It emphasizes building relationships through open dialogue and offers tools for managing challenging discussions with civility and understanding. By fostering these habits, you can bridge divides and bring peace to your personal and professional life.

• Leaders seeking to improve communication in difficult situations
• Individuals wanting to resolve conflicts more effectively
• Professionals handling sensitive discussions in diverse environments

Collaborating with the Enemy (2017) offers a fresh perspective on tackling complex challenges in an increasingly polarized world. It introduces practical strategies for turning conflicts into opportunities, offering guidance on working effectively with those we may see as adversaries to uncover breakthrough solutions and drive meaningful innovation.

• Leaders managing conflicts within diverse or polarized teams
• Community organizers and activists working on contentious local issues
• Professionals seeking creative solutions through unconventional partnerships

I Never Thought of It That Way (2022) explores how curiosity can bridge deep political and ideological divides. It offers practical tools for engaging in meaningful conversations with people whose views differ from your own, promoting understanding and reducing polarization in a divided society. 

• Politically engaged individuals looking to improve their discussions
• Curious thinkers seeking to challenge their own assumptions
• Community leaders aiming to encourage constructive dialogue across divides

The Narcissist's Playbook (2019) is a guide to recognizing, understanding, and breaking free from the manipulation and abuse of narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths. It offers practical tools for identifying manipulative behaviors, understanding why they occur, and empowering their targets to protect themselves and reclaim control of their lives.

• Partners who suspect they’re in an emotionally abusive relationship
• People who want to set boundaries with manipulative family members
• Anyone with a narcissist in their lives

Breakup Bootcamp (2020) is a guide to recovery from heartbreak that’s both empathetic and practical. By working on your own thinking patterns, you can rewire your brain and your heart, living well no matter what.

• The broken-hearted
• People struggling with their thoughts and feelings
• Anyone who wants to move forward after a breakup

From Conflict to Courage (2022) presents a comprehensive approach for transforming workplace disagreements into opportunities for growth and development. It introduces a three-part framework centered on developing “conflict capacity”, helping leaders move beyond common patterns of aggression, avoidance, and appeasing.

• New managers struggling to handle their first leadership conflicts
• Experienced executives dealing with persistent interpersonal issues
• Anyone seeking to build stronger conflict resolution skills

5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (2018) explores high-conflict personalities – those with borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic traits – who create chaos and harm through volatile emotions, aggression, and blame. It provides actionable advice for protecting yourself, building healthier relationships, and even addressing your own tendencies toward high-conflict behavior.

• Family members who want to manage challenging relationships
• Managers who need to deal with high-conflict individuals in the workplace
• Therapists who want to support the victims of high-conflict personalities

The Pause Principle (2025) examines how workplace reactivity weakens organizations and undermines leadership effectiveness. Instead of reacting impulsively, it advocates for mindfulness-based strategies that foster intentional decision-making. Through a comprehensive framework, it guides leaders in transforming reactive habits into thoughtful responses – helping them build stronger teams, make better decisions, and cultivate a culture of trust and innovation.

• Rising professionals hoping to build on their emotional intelligence
• Experienced leaders looking to break long-standing patterns of reactive behavior
• Anyone aiming to manage stress better in tough situations

Trust and Betrayal in the Workplace (2007) explores how trust drives high-performing teams, making big goals achievable and workplace transitions smoother. It highlights the small, often unnoticed actions that break trust and offers practical steps to rebuild it. No matter your role, you can strengthen trust, improve collaboration, and create a more supportive, productive work environment.

• Leaders seeking to build a more trusting workplace culture
• Employees struggling with broken trust in their teams
• Professionals navigating workplace change and collaboration challenges

Building Trust (2001) explores the essential role of trust in business, politics, and personal relationships. It challenges the idea that trust is a static quality, arguing instead that it’s an emotional skill that must be actively built, sustained, and, when necessary, restored. By examining the consequences of mistrust and the dynamics of authentic trust, it provides valuable insights into creating meaningful and resilient connections.

• Leaders and professionals building trust in organizations
• Experts studying human behavior and social dynamics
• Individuals looking to improve trust in their personal and work life

Trust Works! (2013) explores how trust shapes relationships and drives successful teams and organizations. It outlines the simple yet powerful ABCD – able, believable, connected, and dependable – trust model, which you can use to cultivate, maintain, and restore trust. 

• Leaders and managers responsible for teams 
• Individuals in charge of building positive company or group culture 
• Anyone wanting to improve a specific relationship 

Needy (2023) explores the importance of recognizing, honoring, and advocating for personal needs as a pathway to self-acceptance and empowerment. It challenges the societal expectation of self-sacrifice and encourages you to embrace your desires without guilt. Through personal stories, reflective exercises, and practical guidance, it helps you cultivate a deeper connection with yourself and your well-being.

• Overwhelmed caregivers struggling to prioritize their needs
• Self-critical perfectionists seeking self-acceptance and balance
• People interested in redefining self-worth and empowerment

The Power of Discord (2020) offers a significant reframing of the role discord plays in developing functional relationships. It reveals how moments of mismatch – when followed by repair – actually build trust, resilience, and deeper connection. Through groundbreaking research including the famous "Still-Face Experiment," it offers a refreshing perspective that will transform how you view conflict, showing that working through discord is not just normal but essential for creating lasting, meaningful relationships.

• Parents who want to build healthy attachment patterns with their children
• Couples ready to transform inevitable conflicts into opportunities for connection
• Perfectionists who are ready to embrace messiness and grow from mistakes

The Next Conversation (2025) draws on the high-stakes communication strategies of trial lawyers to equip you with practical tools for everyday interactions. You’ll learn how to manage your reactions, communicate assertively, and navigate conflict with composure and purpose. 

• Professionals looking to be more confident in the workplace
• Individuals seeking healthier communication in their relationships
• Anyone hoping to become more assertive

Conflict Resilience (2025) blends deep expertise in conflict negotiation with neuroscientific insight to explore why conflict is so deeply rooted in both human biology and modern society. Drawing on this understanding, it presents a proven framework for engaging with conflict in a more constructive and productive way. 

• Anyone feeling stuck in ongoing disagreements with family, friends, or neighbors and looking for a way forward
• Conflict avoiders who want to build the confidence and skills to engage in difficult conversations
• Those seeking practical tools to resolve deep, entrenched differences at home, at work, or in their community

How to Work with Complicated People (2025) provides practical strategies for effectively collaborating with almost any difficult individual, by emphasizing empathy, clear communication, and personal accountability. Through actionable advice, it equips readers to transform relational conflicts into opportunities for personal and professional growth. 

• Anyone struggling with an interpersonal conflict 
• Team leaders and managers 
• Human resources workers 

The 5 Apology Languages (2022) explores how people give and receive apologies in different ways, much like they express love differently. It outlines five distinct apology languages and explains how understanding them can lead to more effective conflict resolution and stronger relationships.

• Frustrated partners struggling with repeated misunderstandings
• Reflective leaders aiming to resolve workplace conflicts
• Anyone interested in improving relationships

The Mediator’s Handbook (2012) is a comprehensive guide to resolving conflict through a structured, step-by-step mediation process. It outlines how to assess whether mediation is appropriate, guide people through emotionally charged conversations, and support them in reaching workable agreements.

• People managing disputes in shared living or community spaces
• Professionals responsible for resolving tension at work
• Anyone supporting others through conflict or communication breakdowns

How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids (2017) explores the strain that parenthood places on modern marriages, especially the imbalance of domestic labor and emotional load. It weaves together personal anecdotes, expert advice, and ample humor to offer practical strategies for better navigating marital conflict and resentment. 

• New parents navigating their “new” relationship 
• Expecting parents preparing for the changes ahead 
• Therapists or counselors supporting young families 

Doing Life with Your Adult Children (2019) addresses the complex transition parents face when their children become adults, offering practical guidance for navigating altered relationship dynamics while maintaining connection. It provides strategies for common challenges like setting boundaries, distinguishing between helping and enabling, handling value conflicts, and supporting adult children's independence while preserving the parent-child bond.

• Parents of college-age kids managing the transition from hands-on to remote parent
• Empty nesters redefining  their relationship with their adult kids
• Mums and dads who love their kids but can’t support all their choices

Deep Listening (2025) explores how truly hearing others can transform relationships, leadership, and community. It introduces an eight-step method that will help you move beyond surface conversations and create space for genuine understanding – even in moments of tension or disagreement. Grounded in research and real-world stories, it offers practical tools for building deeper, more human connections.

• People who want deeper conversations with loved ones
• Professionals who manage teams or lead organizations
• Therapists, coaches and other helping professionals

The Lost Art of Listening (2009) shows how conversations break down and why even well intentioned people end up talking past each other. It explains the emotional forces that disrupt understanding and offers clear, practical ways to create more receptive, empathic exchanges in everyday life.

• communicators seeking better conversations
• colleagues or partners caught in repeating loops
• anyone who wants calmer and closer relationships

The Cost of Quiet (2026) explains how avoiding difficult conversations can quietly damage romantic relationships by creating disconnection, disengagement, and resentment. It shows how speaking more openly and vulnerably, with ideas grounded in attachment science and therapeutic practice, can turn conflict into a path toward deeper trust and more secure love.

• Conflict-avoidant partners struggling to speak honestly
• Emotionally disconnected couples seeking deeper intimacy
• All those wanting healthier communication habits

Who’s the Favorite? (2026) explores how sibling relationships shape our identities, tracing the roles, rivalries, loyalties, and shared histories that can bind brothers and sisters together or drive them apart. Drawing on interviews, research, and cultural examples, it examines themes like sibling labels, friendship and conflict, shared trauma, family language, and estrangement to show why these bonds can be some of the most formative relationships in our lives.

• Curious siblings navigating rivalry and closeness
• Reflective parents trying to understand adult children
• Anyone interested in family relationships